separation support > Topics >  Re: How long does the guilt and hurt last?

How long does the guilt and hurt last?

Last post 01/09/2010, 9:17 AM by insuresag. 1 replies.
< Previous Topic    Next Topic >
Sort Posts:
insuresag
Joined: 12/27/2007
Posts: 10
Re: How long does the guilt and hurt last?
01/09/2010, 9:17 AM
Hello....I was just going into my profile that I haven't updated for a long time...and saw your post.  Your hurt will eventually go away, but it will take some time.  Didn't look at your profile or age, but I believe there will be someone else out there for you.  I know easier said then done.  My story is quite complicated, but ending the same as yours.  Guilt that it was all me, being somewhat rejected...and my heart broken, yet again, by the love of my life, round 2.  So for me at age 57, I will stand up again the wind yet again, and make myself stronger and perhaps open up again to someone who is actually GOOD for me....and to see that person for what and who they actually are, not through the haze of what I WANTED....  Hope that helps....  Nancy

Report abuse
essexgirl
Joined: 12/27/2009
Posts: 1
How long does the guilt and hurt last?
12/26/2009, 5:47 PM

I recently left a failing relationship of 11 years.  It took the last 2 for me to realize that I was the only one fighting to keep things going in the relationship.  Of course, according to my ex, this was all a surprise to her and she (understandably) is very hurt.  I, too, am hurting.  I tried to make things work, but in the end, all I felt was that I wasn't really WANTED.  I couldn't keep living like that and be alive.  So, I left...not for someone new, not because she wanted someone new, but rather, there was no life left in the relationship.  Now I feel not only the hurt, but the guilt of "just leaving". 

I am working on rebuilding a life of my own and realize that I may be alone for the rest of my life, but I do want to live.  Does anyone else understand this situation?  Please let me know...good, bad or indifferently.  I accept it all.

Essexgirl 

 

Report abuse
View as RSS news feed in XML

Olivia Travel, the premiere lesbian travel company, provides amazing cruise and resort vacations for lesbians worldwide. We create unforgettable holidays for women from around the world. From upscale European luxury trips to Caribbean cruise holidays filled with 1,800 women, or Club Med resort buy outs on island paradises, Olivia creates amazing all-lesbian vacations. We help lesbians travel the world—our guests have visited Europe, the Galapagos, the Caribbean, Mexico, Hawaii, Alaska, Africa, Tahiti and French Polynesia, Antarctica and the Amazon on our trips. Olivia has 20 years of experience serving the lesbian traveler; we have taken over 100,000 women on 150 lesbian vacations, and maintain a 98% approval rating for our holidays! Whether you crave a fun-in-the-sun cruise or a stroll through a historic European city, Olivia, as the oldest and largest lesbian travel company, knows how to make your vacation dreams come true. Everything about our cruise, resort, adventure and luxury vacations is done with you, the lesbian traveler, in mind. We bring you outstanding entertainers—female musicians and comedians such as Melissa Etheridge, the Indigo Girls, kd lang, HEART, Margaret Cho, Whoopi Goldberg, Leisha Hailey and Lily Tomlin—and fantastic destinations. Let Olivia take you on your next lesbian vacation! Come on holiday with us, and you will never be the same!