hey there xsoftrockstarx - how's it goin' connecting with other lesbians in your area (since your initial post)?
here's the secret to finding other lesbians you 'click' with:
identify what are your 'highest quality attraction venues' - what i mean by this is as follows:
singles events, bars, even online dating sites, etc. aren't always the greatest places to meet other single lesbians because all you have in common with them is being single and being a lesbian. that's why so many 'failed' relationships begin in bars.
so, instead, spend some time identifying what your passions, greatest interests, values, hobbies are. then identify events or clubs in your area, gay or not, that focus on these areas.
for ex, say you are really jazzed about the upcoming presidential election or, political activism, in general. search the internet and read your local 'alternative' paper(s) and find out if there are any local GLBT or women's political groups organizing on this issue and get involved. i'll bet you will find some other lesbians there who share in common with you this interest.
the bottom line is this: relationships that last are built on a foundation of similar values. so, if you are serious about finding a 'life partner' this is vital. on the other hand you are young, so i would recommend you take time getting to know yourself better and 'playing the field' as in, dating many women non-exclusvely for the next year or so and learn how to date, have fun and bone up on your relationship skills, so that, when you are 'ready' yourself, you'll be able to spot THE ONE when she comes into your life! one of the biggest mistakes lesbians make is settling down too soon with the first gal that comes along. this is no longer necessary in today's world if you are willing to be a bit more visible as who you are...
give it a whirl and let me know how it turns out for ya! if you want to learn more about this readiness issue, let me know.
beachgrrl
http://www.coachsappho.com/giftpackage.htm