Hi, I have been with my partner for 9 years now, and I just don't know what I should consider myself as. You see, I am not attracted to any other women, never have been. I have been married and divorced twice, I have 3 grown children, and 2 grandkids. I am still attracted to men, guess I always will be. I am very in love with my partner. We were best friends before we became lovers. People laugh at me when I tell them I don't think I'm a lesbian because I'm not attracted to women, yet, I've been living with a woman, and having the best sex I've ever had with her for the past 9 years, so what is my problem? I suppose it could be that I'm not sure exactly what defines a lesbian. I do live a lesbian life, so why can't I bring myself to say, "I am a lesbian!" I've always said that if anything ever happens to her/us, thats it, I'm done. There's no way I could be with another woman, or man, as she has spoiled me rotten to the core.
Honestly this is the best relationship I've ever been in, and I've had my share. We have the absolute best sex I've ever had, and I have never been treated so good. Everyone says she spoils me rotten, and I have to agree. So you see, there is no way I could ever find this kind of happiness, ever. I pray we grow old together............So, does anyone have any idea as to why I don't consider myself a lesbian, just because I am not attracted to other women, or am I the only one thats ever felt this way. Help!