Hi my name is Dionne, i was on the carribean cruise in march. I wanted to respond to this question maybe getting more insight from other women.  I have never dated women with in my race, partly because i could never find them and when i did i was attached. I have always wondered what it would be like, in every aspect not just the physical part of it. The other part is i think im just a bit scared of black women. Now i do appreciate women of all cultures shapes and sizes; finding their beauty breath taking. How is it different or is it better?

i have also dated outside the race more times than WITHIN the race..but only one realtionship was successfull...she is caucasian..we broke up after abt 2 yrs..and 4 those 2 yrs i can honestly say tht she was all i had ever longed for..the chemistry was phenominal...we had alot of things in common...but eventually we grew apart..not bcuz of race but things jus got complicated..some of her family was extremely racist and homophobic..over time..it wore me out...but i honestly dnt think theres anything wrong wit dating outside black women...ive bn wit some of the most exotic women this earth has 2 offer ....now dnt get it twisted...i LOVE me a black woman...and i think all that matters is what u feel when u look at someone...do u c their color b4 the content of their character? 

Hello ladies, Just browsing through different groups and ran across this one and  thought i'd join in. I guess the TOPICS were eye catching as well. However, I believe that LOVE has no boundaries!!! I can truely say that I've been around the block and back several times. God knows I love my "BLACK" women, but sometimes when life isn't revoloving around the earth like it should you have to shake the game pieces up a little bit. I've dated some of the most Beautiful, Intelligent, Spiritual, Independent, Sophiscated SISTAHS on earth, but I've also had my share of good  for nothing Gold-Diggas as well..... I've been in love with a few and could have killed some of the others. Out of them all, I only regret not giving one(1) more of my time. With all that said, you love who you love no matter . When love is true there's no denying it, you can't control who your heart loves. You can try and run from it, but in the end "It is what it is!!"  I have been with my Caucasian wife for 41/2 years now and MARRIED for 6months. She defied every rule I had about dating outside of my race. I tried everything in the beginning to find something wrong with dating her and through good and bad, I couldn't find a thing. After taking a look at myself I realized that all my life I had been cheating myself by limiting myself to only dating within my race. I realized that love comes in all different sizes, colors. I've never felt so loved as I have since she came into my life. As a matter of fact she's the coolest gal I know. She's Beautiful, Very-Intelligent, Independent, and the right SISTAH for me. Now, she can't cook like my mama, but she do aight!! She's the hippest white girl I know. Hell, she can almost out dance me. Don't get her started on the cupid shuffle either, she'll never sit her fast *** down!!! I guess being that she was Born in Brooklyn and raised in Queens kinda helped her be as cool as she is though. Nah, but seriously, to each his/her own. You love who you love and that's your sole choice. People may look at you funny and whisper snobbish remarks, but just blame it on the "WISH" syndrone. They wish they had you but they don't... I controll my happiness and my wife keeps a permanant smile fixated on my face. I couldn't have found a more perfect woman for me than her. I love her with everything that I am and wouldn't trade her for anything in the world....

I have also dated outside my race once. There really is no difference. Each woman is different. Some are just more emotional than others. As long as you and the woman you're with are happy, then the hell with all else.

I have only dated outside of my race once. All of my serious relationships have been with African American women. I have loved each and every one of them. I have found them interesting,intelligent, funny and spiritually grounded. They have also been financially independent. If for some reason you find yourself falling in love with someone outside the race, I say, "more power to you." True love is so rare.

I have dated both outside my race and inside my race...I really don't think it makes a difference because if it is genuine love then you will love her no matter what race she is. I didn't get as much time with the girl from my race only about 6 mos and it it was complicated... but the other woman and I were together for 2 years and took me 4 to get over her, because I was so inlove with her...she understood why I did'nt want my hair wet all the time, and she knew I didnt care for her cooking ( lol ) but she was more shapely than me ( humm) think I missed that line! but the point is she was a woman and I loved her for who she was not for her race...The people I have been talking to lately are all black women and I am really trying, but most just arent up to the task...and that means they only have 1 thing on their minds...and thats not what im looking for...just my 2 cents! I 'm sure there is a woman out there that is spiritually/emotionally/financially and intelectually well put together. I am already all those things but most of all im happy to just be me and waiting to invite someone to share that with me...Good luck ladies

Once in awhile I find myself somewhat interested in someone outside my race. but its usually for superficial reasons and not something i take real serious. I have dated superficially outside my race . I know i am not interested in a life partner who is from a different race. i never say never and I obviously don;t know what life has in store but i can;t imagine having a partner who is outside my race. I am more attracted to black women physically, spiritually, and culturally. not to say its not possible to have strong feelings for someone of a different race but .......

  I remember seeing a first come love episode on logo and it was a black woman and a white woman getting married and they seem so odd to me and so mis matched. not cute together at all. one of my good friends is white and her gf is black and I see the same thing but obviously I don;t know what the real chemistry is like between them.

When i am close to women who are not black I can have a good time but there is a certain dimension that is missing.

my favorite non black women - Natalie Imbruglia (my all time favorite), the woman from Law & order svu (every lesbian and every budding lesbian likes her), the chinese woman from the movie Saving face (she is hot), i also like julia roberts, jodie foster- she seems intelligent which i find very sexy  ,I have had a crush on Jodie since I was like 12 before I even knew what sexuality was and I also like Jenny from the Lword she exudes a mysterious deep quality which I find sexy

I'm just curious. I've heard all these stories about other races and wanted to know if there is any truth to it? I've only dated woman of my own race, I don't discriminate it was just someting I never pursued. It's nice having someone who can understand why I don't like to get my hair wet, and likes Soul food and hopefully can cook too. Someone who is a reflection of me. I have friends who are white who only want to date black girls because they are shapely. Can't say I blame them I love it too. What do you guys think?