You have a great attitude , you will found your soul mate......pooh

lovekids43:

First I admire that you are looking to be true to yourself and discovering about yourself.  I know your desire...at 10 years into my 28 year relationship my partner and I thought, prayed and discovered that having children and a family was truly going to be a blessing for us.  Most recently, within the last two years, my committed relationship dissolved but my relationship with our two fantastic children continues to enhance my life and challenge me to being that "better person".  Although the children were conceived via AI by anonymous donor to my ex-partner...I am as connected to them as much as if they were born to me.  One of the biggest advantages moving to California 11 years ago was my ability to fully adopt my children so it is not just the emotional feelings that bind...so do legal papers and jargon...but whatever it took...it did not matter.

Now, since my separation, I realize that I am not truly a single parent since decisions must still be shared but those weeks when the children are at my house, there are moments of struggle for what was once shared responsiblity becomes mine.  (My ex has her new partner and they tend to respect the weekly re-distribution of parenting responsibilities when the kids switch from one household to another).  It can get a bit crazy with two teenagers and I do have my moments but at the end of each day, I am so thankful that I have had the opportunity to be a Mother.  They may not be of my womb, but they are of my soul.

I think having children is one of the most important decisions you can make.  It isn't about you anymore, whether you want to believe that or not, it is the truth.  I was 33, got involved with a woman with an 8yr old and I knew going into the relationship, it was a package deal, so if I wasn't ready to be a parent, then I needed to move on.  We adopted another child a couple of years into our relationship.  Well, 13 years later, the relationship is over, but I have two awesome kids!  Wouldn't trade them for the world! 

Nancy, it will happen, you just have to make sure they understand the package deal...

I completely hear what you're saying. Being single is hard enough but add a kid and you are walking down a rough road. The minute i tell someone i have two kids they have one foot out the door. I figure the right person will come along eventually, its just a matter of time. :)

Kids are great and they love you unconditionally. You just have to make sure you put them first before anyone else.

I am a single parent and I love it. I wouldn't trade being a mother for anything in the world. But the joke is that because I am gay, a lot of people don't get it (which I can care less about). For me, I was trying so hard to at least be bi to the point of my own self-disgust. But honestly, parenthood has it difficult moments. My daughter is 2 years old- so of course half the time I want to pull my hair out, the remainder I'm like YAY! But if you are honestly financially and emotionally prepared for one of the most interesting journeys, I say go for it. If someone loves you, they will have to love the fact that you are also a mother.

Hi everyone!

Just wondered what your opinions and insights are on being a single parent. I have been in 2 relationships in the past 15 years and have always wanted to be a parent,  but my 2 partners have not wanted children. So now i'm single 35 and one of my biggest regrets is that I have not had any children yet. I love kids. I have 4 nephews and 2 nieces that range in age from 20yrs old-10 months old. I have always been really close to my now 12 year old niece. My last relationship ended almost 2 years ago and I have been and still am trying to grow and become a better person. I have always wanted children and have put it off because of the relationships I have been in. The one thing that keeps coming back to me is that if I only do one thing the with the rest of my life that would be to be a mother. Was wondering what your thoughts are about having children as a single parent, and hopefully getting some insight on some of the struggles single parents have to face raising children on their own.