ok im having a lil issue... so im a mother 2 a lil boy who is 3 yrs old... My girlfriend has no children but she loves them but im feeling like she cant or wont get close to mind. let me back to story up a lil. me n my gf moved n together about 6 months ago and at the time my son was living at my mothers still for about 3 months he wasnt ready to make that change so i thought i do it slow so he wouldnt be to scared of a new house n new rules. so for the first 3 months my son would come over everyday pretty much so he could get use to all. me and  my mother arent very close personally but she always has bn with my son..well recentl y had a huge falling out n my son came to live with use which was already about to happen...so now that he is here i was kinda expecting her to bond with him even more... she and i have discussed getting married and have another child.. so why would my son be different right? is what i told myself... we finally had a convo about my son cuz it was really buggin me.... she said the fact that we were raised completely different my family being very laid back n not to many rules to her bn a very very strict family ..that her being close to my son she would feel like if he was doin something wrong she felt like it would be her place to correct him... i understand that im not sayin thats bad at all i want her to join in on bein a parent to him but becuz she is strict n her punishment is possible harder then mine she feel like not correcting him or being close to him were she might have to is safer... less conflict between her and i cuz we may not agree...but at the same time she says im a great mother and my son is wonderfu... we both know he isnt an angel but he isnt a monster either... so now what is what i tell myself... how can we build this family if she isnt in it all the way how can her and i have a child and it be dealt wit different then my son... i want her to be a part of him... n i just dont know how to get her to be ok with that ive told her i have no problem with her correcting him.... that most parents arent on the exact same page of eachother when it come to discipline but they find a happy medium... he is my son n my world n i love her wit all my heart i feel so alone....n lost how is it coming into a new family i want to know what she might be feeling? i want to understand