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Advice for "late-bloomer"?

Last post 02/27/2008, 3:23 PM by raehab. 2 replies.
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raehab
Joined: 01/23/2008
Posts: 2
Re: Advice for "late-bloomer"?
02/27/2008, 3:23 PM

Yes I have advice, A little late, however better late than never.  (1) I personally don't feel that it's that important to come out to your family or friends, it's not like you've decided to bring home a new matriarch for the family and you need their approval.  Gay only applies to who you sleep and share with, and that's personal.  You'll probably still have the same job, live in the same home and even drive the same car.  I'm sure when they go out and sleep with someone they don't come home bring the family together and say, hey, I'm gonna sleep with this Guy, and I want your approval because this is what I want.

  From experience, most family members say their alright with it, but they r always trying to figure out ways to change you, how they can help you heal  or something.  (2)  Same with your friends, If you want to know how they will react, mention on girls night out, that you want to go to a Gay Club, if they scream no way, they are closed minded and not worth the drama that comes with there narrow mindedness.  (3) Check my profile, I'm a second time around a really late bloomer but love is what love does, so I do women.  That's what I love, And that's why !od put us here on this earth to Love.

 

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joygu1
Joined: 10/15/2007
Posts: 8
Re: Advice for "late-bloomer"?
12/04/2007, 8:01 AM
I was in the same boat as you. I would suggest seeing if your town or area has any support group for women. The best place to start would be if you can find a womens center, or a womens eduction place.  I was lucky that my town had a coming out later in life support group that I could go to. It made things a lot easier and esp. easier when telling everyone. Funny thing is, once I did...it was like weight was lifted, and I mean, i honestly felt lighter..I wish you tons of luck and support!!!

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rittenhouse
Joined: 11/17/2007
Posts: 1
Advice for "late-bloomer"?
11/17/2007, 7:13 AM
Hi. I am a 34-year old woman living in Philly who is just coming to terms with being gay. I haven't told my friends or family yet and I am not even sure how to "join" the lesbian community as I don't have any close acquaintances who are gay (probably as a result of trying to deny my truth for so long). Any advice?

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