I AM SO CONFUSSED AS TO HOW TO HANDLE THE UPS ANDOWN OF THIS NEW RELATIONSHIP. WE ARE IN TWO DIFFERENT STATES AND SHE HAS CHILDREN. I FEEL THAT I AM THE ONE THAT IS PUTTING MORE EFFORT INTO THIS RELATIONSHIP THAN SHE IS. SHE WON'T EVEN LET ME MEET HER CHILDREN. SHE SAID THAT SHE DOESN'T WANT WOMEN COMING AND GOING IN THEIR LIVES. I UNDERSTAND THIS BUT SHE  WON'T EVEN INTRODUCE ME AS A FRIEND. OUR RELATIONSHIP HAD STARTED OUT AS A LIE TO ME. SHE IS MARRIED TO ANOTHER WOMAN AND TOLD ME THAT THEY HAD SPLIT!! WELL NOT UNTIL HER WIFE FOUND NOTES FROM BOTH OF US. WE HAVE BEEN SEEING EACH OTHER FOR EIGHT MONTHS NOW AND SHE SAID THAT WE HAVE BEEN MOVING TOO FAST AND I ASKED IF SHE WOULD LIKE TO SEE OTHER PEOLPE AND SHE SAID NO SHE WANTS ME BUT WANTS TO MOVE SLOWER.THAT'S FINE EXCEPT HOW DO YOU SLOW THINGS DOWN WHEN THEY STARTED OFF RACING. SHE IS ALSO A THERAPIST AND ANALYZES EVERYTHING THAT I SAY. SHE TELLS ME THAT SHE IS A STICKLER FOR WORDS AND THAT I NEED TO THINK BEFORE I SPEAK. I AM SO TORN CAUSE A LOT OF WEEKENDS SHE DOESN'T ANSWER HER PHONE AND WHEN I FINALLY DO REACH HER SHE 'LL SAY THAT HTE PHONE WAS DEAD OR SHE WAS OUTSIDE WITH HER CHILDREN  OR A NUMBER OF OTHER EXCUSES. THIS SCARES ME BECAUSE I START THINKING THAT SHE IS STILL WITH HER WIFE . THIS HAPPENED THE LAST TIME. WHEN I APPROACH HER HER IN ASKING IF SHE HAS TALKED TO HER WIFE SHE SAYS NO AND I AM GROWING TIRED OF YOU ALWAYS ASKING ME THAT. WHAT AM I TO THINK? I NEED HELP PLEASE ON HOW TO HANDLE THIS. SHOULD I CONTINUE THE RELATIONSHIP OR REMOVE MYSELF FROM IT? HELP IT'S DRIVING ME CRAZY!!!!!!!