My partner and I were best friends for about 14 years before we got together.  Though we had a mutual attraction to each other, both of us were in committed relationships and would not cross that line for the many years we were "just friends".  Apparently most of our closest friends and family members could see this attraction that neither of us would ever consciously admit.  We had lost touch with each other for a few years when a strange twist of fate left both of us single at the same time and our paths crossed again.  The chance for the greatest love of our lives finally had the opportunity to blossom.  We've been basically inseparable for the last...almost three years now.  A very wise person recently said to me, "I've learned that the secret to a life-long relationship is to be in love with each other all the time--even when you don't like each other".  That wise person was my partner, Janet, giving her observations on her parents 56 year marriage—and they are STILL very much in love with each other.

My partner and I have known each other for about 7 years now, we met through a friend.  We immediately took to each other and became great friends.   We just started dating for the last year or so.

Thanks, Brewmax, although when you think about it, it's so expressive, it would make a good thing to say when you're surprised or happy.

Mary Hennessy

marytheresa, I was responding to a question posed by a participant who's "name" was "looaboo". . . I'm assuming you missed that and thought "looaboo" had some special signficance/meaning to me instead!  Am I correct?

She had asked if anyone else had enjoyed that "love at first sight" experience and I was simply responding that we had, 18 years ago, and were still living the good life in love!  I like to use someone's "name" when I respond. . . that's all!

My fiancé and I met 6 yrs. ago. Our relationship is indiscribable, but the terms "soulmates" and "two heads, but one mind" would probably slightly apply.

I now believe that for everyone out there, there is a match beyond perfection, and I am trully grateful that I've found mine.

We were best friends first. We knew that we were soul mates before we were even thinking of being lovers. We fell into love on a trip we took together. We rented a cabin in Bayfield, Ontario and we spent two weeks there. It all happened there and we knew that we were meant to be together. A little over a year later we were married. My partner and I have changed our lives so much since that trip to Bayfield. We moved and she is starting a new career. She used to be a professor of History and now she has decided to go back to school herself and is completing her first year of law school. It has been a rollercoaster of a ride. If your relationship can survive the first year of law school then it can survive anything. We will be together forever!  

I agree we should focus on the good things about our partners and not the bad ones. Everyone is human and has their faults. I have thought before that my entire world was crashing down on me just because my partner was going through a stressful time her life and was unable to relate. I got through it. After tackling the big things you realized that the small things are nothing. We share everything there is no hers or mine. We don't focus on who spends or makes more money than the other; if the budget gets tight we both try to work together on not spending as much money, if it is good we spend money together. My partner and I share the same checking account and credit cards. Sometimes one of us may spend more than the other would like, but we don’t make a huge deal about it; we discuss it and then move on because it is not worth focusing on too much. I have found that the little thing in life can drive you crazy if you let them. If you let the little things bother you too much it can keep you from enjoying the good and important parts of your relationship.

I didn't have love at first sight, instead I had love at first "talk".  I met my partner through an internet dating service.  She almost didn't answer my first e-mail because she misinterpreted something I wrote.  But she took a chance, called me on the phone and we talked for hours.  I knew then that I loved her, we just instantly clicked.  We talked again and then had our first date which lasted 18 hours!  She is my best friend, I never get tired of being with her and miss her dearly when we are apart.  In fact we often comment on how we don't understand couples who enjoy doing things apart.  We know for some couples that is what keeps their relationship healthy, but for us it is the opposite.  We are each other's best friends.  I wouldn't dream of going anywhere without her and instead only dream of going everywhere with her.

I am the luckiest person on the planet and wish everyone could be so fortunate as to find the love of their life.  I have never been so happy and I think everyone deserves to feel this way!

We too had the love at first sight meeting...unfortunately, we were both in relationships at the time.  Had to wait several years before we were actually free to try anything (we were "just friends" for those years).  Now, we have been partners for almost 13 years and it just gets better with every passing day.  There was something special about being friends first and waiting to take that next step.

Happily ever after now happens on a daily basis...unless she is REALLY cranky that particular day  

ok, Brewmax, looaboo??? I have to ask.

Mary

My partner and I have not spent a night alone by choice since we met 8 years ago.  We have very few arguments and try to compromise whenever possible.  It is definitely a fairytale romance.  Anyone else have the love at first sight and happily ever after??